Tuesday, June 23, 2009

UOO 2009 Camp - Arrival


Well, all eight kids and the two chaperons/translators arrived safe and sound tonight. You could definitely see the look of exhaustion in their faces. All but a few were done and ready for bed. It took a while to get out of the airport and to the van. An hour-long drive to the Carman's home was in store for them next. Only one of the Chaperons stayed away as I drove them to their "American home" for the next week. They will transition to the Stoesz home about mid-camp and will stay there until their return to Ukraine. Heidi and I decided not to host in our home this year due to our recent adoption, a wise move as our kids are new to their family and need more time with us.
Our camp attendees are:

Chaperones - Yulia & Tatianna (both speak English)
Girls - Olya, Yulia, Marina, Nastya
Boys - Dima, Vova, Sasha, Dima

Come on out, the fun has started!

~ Felix ~

Monday, June 22, 2009

Father's Day, Red Rocks & Zoo

Hello there, friends & family. That's right! I made it back from my summer duty with the USAF and boy oh boy am I glad to be home. I like my other part-time gig, but being away from my family is no picnic for me or Heidi, aka "Single-mom" as she told me. Not a moniker that she cared for at all.


The kidos were equally happy to have dear ole dad home too. Nadia hugged and held onto me like I had been gone a year. Julia wouldn't leave my lap and Kolya had to tell me all about his birthday that I missed. I hope I never miss another one.

On Saturday we ventured out to Red Rocks amphitheater where these pictures were taken. The kids and mom had fun running up and down the stairs while I rested at the top. I was still tired from three weeks on the road.



After Red Rocks, we took the kids to the Denver zoo. Sorry, no pictures of that unless you want to see the three hundred pictures of the baboon's red butt or the rhinoceros' slobbery face!



We celebrated Father's day on Sunday as is the custom. The kids treated me like royalty and served me a ribeye steak with all the trimmings. Mom did all the grilling. I felt like I needed to be doing something, but everyone insisted that I take it easy. All the kids gave me gifts and letters. Nadia's letter was especially touching and made me tear up. WOW! Julia gave me a picture and Kolya gave me a book entitled, Why a Son Needs a Dad. NICE!!



The UOO 2009 camp kicks off tonight with the arrival of the 8 kids at the airport. We are getting dressed and starting to move towards the van. If you want to be involved and you live in the local area, there are still things to volunteer for and events that need your help. Visit our website at www.ukraineorphans.org
~ Felix ~

Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Happy Birthday Kolya!


Today Kolya turned 10 years old. Hopefully he had one of his best birthdays ever. It wasn't over the top, but not exactly an average day, either. I cooked breakfast for the kids this morning (a treat), then dropped all three off at the YMCA camp for the day. After work and camp, we went to Red Robin for dinner. Kolya was a good sport with the Happy Birthday routine! Kolya is an absolute treasure!

Felix is away on his summer National Guard duty, so I'm going to be a single mom for almost two weeks. The plan is to keep things strict and simple so that I don't lose my mind. Work is super-busy, our Ukraine Orphan Outreach summer camp kicks off in two weeks, the kids are needy. Hmmm...I might lose my mind!

I'm happy to report that Julia is really improving from her occupational therapy sessions. She goes once a week for one hour. The biggest improvement is in her speech. She is pronouncing things more clearly, and her vocabulary has noticably improved over the last few weeks. For the life of me I cannot figure out how sensory/tactile delays can affect speech - but it does. I have really enjoyed hearing what she has to say, especially now that she can express herself better in English. She has a great sense of humor. But we still have a way to go......



Nadia is attending a YMCA Leadership in Training camp this week. Today she said she had "fun" at camp - a huge step in the right direction. She was naturally apprehensive about the camp at first! Recently she told me that she misses her friends in Ukraine. I was so relieved that she will confide in me (is it confiding if I post it on the Internet?). Nadia is very strong and exceptionally resilient, but she needs to let down those barriers once in a while.


And then there is Buddy. Crazy Buddy. So much for the fence. He's busted.


Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Dodging a Bullet

For the past two weeks or so, there was talk on the adoption forum boards about the impending Rada vote in Ukraine. This vote by the governing body of Ukraine was set for June 2nd and would have forever changed adoptions and orphan ministry in that country. If passed, there could have been a moratorium placed on international adoptions.

In other words, this would have meant no more adoptions. The bill would also have limited contact with orphans in orphanages to ONLY governmental officials. International ministry and their teams would have been in jeopardy. Also, everyone was not sure if the SDA would immediately stop all adoptions and send the families that are already there, home. Or would they slowly, over time, cease all international adoption. History has shown us that the SDA quickly and immediately enacted past Rada legislation.

Indications are now that the bill was removed from the agenda or that it was postponed for another time. In either case, international adoption marches forward.

We chose not to write about it prior to the vote, perhaps it was denial. For me though, God provided me a peace and calm that I asked for as I prayed long and hard for this bill's defeat or removal. I can see His hand in this as I asked Him to show me His glory!

Rimma and Zina's dream of being reunited with our family is safe for now. Our friends over there in harm's way right now can proceed with bringing their children home. All of the children who have asked me countless times for a family, who asked not be forgotten, who still have the hope of love taking them in...may still find their dreams realized.

Please don't delay or hesitate if Ukraine adoption is on your mind. Take that walk in the fields of the fatherless. They are waiting.

~ Felix ~

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

The Weekend in Photos

So many things happened this weekend, I'm sure I will miss something. But, I will do my best to recap events.

All three kids ended the school year this past Friday. Over the past two weeks, Heidi and I have attended more "end of year" or "graduation" parties than ever in our lives. For example: Nadia's choir concert & awards party, Nadia's soccer awards, Nadia's Newcomers Class graduation, Julia's choir concert & awards party, Julia's 5th grade graduation, Julia's school carnival, Julia's church youth group graduation, Julia's birthday party, Kolya's school lunch day out, Kolya's school grade promotion, Kolya's school carnival. I'm sure I missed some thing!


Here's Nadia at the Newcomer's graduation with her teacher, Mr, DJ. Her enrollment in this class was the best thing for her, she really blossomed! Julia will be attending this program next year.

On Friday, I took Kole out of school early, despite it being his last day. We had planned a Father-Son two day fishing trip to South Park Colorado since the girls were attending a party with the Volfs. We camped overnight and got up early for our fishing excursion. Here we are at the crack of dawn.

He and I had a blast and he caught his first fish, this 12" Rainbow trout which put up a pretty good fight. In all, we landed a dozen fish or so between the two of us. Not bad for a day's fishing!



Here I am with my largest of the day, and that's no fish tale! We are honest fishermen,but we bring a camera to do all the talking! With the exception of a fish or two that can't be revived, all our boys get released to fight another day. We departed Saturday evening to get back home for our guests arriving on Sunday.


On Sunday, we had planned our annual cabbage roll making party! We have to pre-make a few of the dishes for our annual Ukraine Orphan Outreach community dinner. The orphans that attend the camp do some of the final prep work and serving of their natives dishes but the UOO group does the heavy cooking. This event affords the kids an opportunity to "pay it forward" because this dinner raises much needed funds for next year's camp, as the previous kids did for them. We made over 450 rolls this year. 'Many Thanks' to the Volfs, the Pittels, and the DeYoungs who showed up at my house to accomplish this. Here's Nadia & Ashley enjoying a little down time after the party!

Since everyone was already at my house, and it was Julia's Birthday, we sang Happy Birthday to her and served cake, cupcakes and ice cream. Mom lit all 12 candles and the party restarted, just with a different focus! Our birthday girl wanted a homemade yellow cake with yellow icing. It was so goooooood!


Birthday smiles with Mom. Standing behind me and the camera in the photo above and below are the two dozen or so friends all saying. "CHEESE!!"


Dad's turn with the Birthday girl. We both love ice cream!


Who could forget the cupcakes! Needless to say, the sugar rush kicked in 30 minutes later and things got interesting at our house after everyone left!


For our overseas friends who don't know, Monday was our annual Memorial Day observance in America. I run the Bolder Boulder 10K run every year with about 50,000 of my friends! My run wave started at 7:15 am and I finished with a personal best time of 56:47! The run ends in the football stadium at CU. Let's play a little "find Waldo" and see if you find me in this picture. I think you can click on the photo to enlarge it. Hint, I just ran by an official on the outside and I'm wearing a white shirt.
While I cooled down in a nearby courtyard, the kids played hide & seek. They love doing this every time they come to CU (where Mom works) because of the immense gardens, courtyards and places to hide. Here's Julia with me, she asked me to cover her eyes so she could count to twenty. She can do so with great ease now.
After the run, there are dozens of venues to visit and lots of free treats. One of the best places to head over to is the popsicle guys and get something cool and tasty after a long run.

We met up with the Christophersons (Ann, Sophia, Anna, Eilleen & Roland) at the run and we planned an impromptu afternoon pizza party at our place. The adults were indifferent as to who's house were should go to until Heidi mentioned that we had left over ice cream and cake. All of the kids got excited about that! Just as the Memorial Day ceremonies were closing, the skies opened up and we all got plenty soaked an our long walk to our cars. When 50K+ people are in attendance, you have to park a long ways off! We all got home and dried off just in time for the new festivities to begin. Roland even treated us to a special drink he brought to make. Yum!
Our last visitor of the weekend was Marilene, Aimee's mom. She brought over a gift for Julia and we sat and talked for awhile. I was beat from the weekend and I want to thank Marilene for not minding that I laid on the couch for the duration.
I was definitely ready for bed as the evening and wonderful, action filled three day weekend came to a close. I'll blog with ya again this week. See you soon.
~Felix~

Thursday, May 21, 2009

Round Two - Here we go again!

The time is right. We have discussed it for many months, both among ourselves and on this blog. It's been on our minds, constantly on our thoughts, and I can feel God's gentile nudging at my back. What is it that I am writing about?

We have officially started proceedings to begin our second adoption trip. We have asked to renew our home study and to begin the backgrounds checks needed for the process. This will start us down the path to bring Rimma (and possibly another unknown child) home! I say unknown but it could very well be a child we have met while there in Ukraine or on one of the UOO camps, we don't know. We are leaving that in His hands.

What about Zina, you may be asking? We still have no word if her registration has cleared the social worker's desks or if she will get registered by the end of this summer, but we must start the process now for Rimma. If Zina gets registered by end of August, we will put on the brakes and slow the process down and go get them both together a year after that.

Comments from our interviews with prospective Ukrainian facilitators indicate that the SDA is giving preference to families adopting older children. We think we could submit our dossier at the right time frame for Rimma's 1 year anniversary for international adoption.

This news gives promise that the SDA seems to have it's act together and is being "older-child" friendly. With that kind of pro-adoption mentality, it might not be a far-fetched idea to ask them to waive the 1 year hold on Zina. I don't know of this ever having been done before and it probably will not happen, but it's worth it to ask. Worst case is that they say no and we continue on plan. This, of course, assumes that Zina gets registered before we travel. We will have our home study ready for three children, just in case. We hope to have Rimma home by Christmas and signs are that this is very doable.

So, thank you to all our friends that provided input these past few months. We value your opinions and you can see now that we were serious and trying to make a decision. We have made that decision and we are moving forward.

In closing, please pray over us and our friends in Ukraine who are undergoing the adoption process at this very moment.

~Felix~

Monday, May 18, 2009

Time for Summer Fun!

As far as I'm concerned, the Eimer's have pulled off a feat as miraculous as walking on water. That is, they were able to photograph all of their kids, all at once, looking in the same direction, and all smiling (see their blog). I can't tell ya how many photos I have of all three kids together, the pictures are endless. But in each snapshot, someone is unhappy, smirking, giving an evil look, rabbit eared, crying, hitting, looking away, blurred, you name it. The few that I do have are all posted here, in a facade of family photographic cooperation! Taking a photo of just one kid is a breeze, get all three together and it's mayhem! No one else has this problem at all, right?! To get one great family picture, many billions of bytes of data die a gruesome electronic death. If I had a nickel for every time that shutter clicked! Thank goodness we have a digital camera!



This is the last week left of school for the kids and they are getting antsy. They are ready to be done for the school year. We have a few local day camps set up for them throughout the summer, just a couple of days a week. We are going to hire a teen in the area to take them to the pool once or twice a week, too. Our three used to go to Spain during the summers, except for last year when they stayed in Ukraine and went to the Black Sea to a stay-away camp. Rimma & Zina will be doing this again because their director, yet again, wouldn't allow the girls to come home for the summer.

I have heard the stories about unsupervised orphan kids running about the summer camps in Ukraine from adults we know, but our kids have been sharing stories as of late about their trips to the Black Sea. It's pretty much the same story. Nadia told me a story about 20 kids eating one watermelon as their only meal that day at the sea, too. Christian camp influences like Karen Springs' group and AGAPE are a welcome change for these youths, and quite a few become new first-time Christians as a result.

We will have to stay in and around Colorado this year unless something magical happens. This is Heidi's busiest time of year and I only have two weeks of vacation saved up. I will need all I can get should we go get Rimma this Fall, unless I go FMLA. We have been taking short day trips to the mountains whenever possible and there will be lots of opportunity to camp and fish during summer up there. In fact Kole and I are going camping and fishing at the hottest rainbow trout spot in Colorado this weekend. We are leaving on Friday and will be fishing all day Saturday before returning home that night. Sunday will be a day of rest before my big Bolder Boulder 10K race on Monday, Memorial Day. I train for it every year, each time trying to better my time over the previous year. My practice run this past weekend puts me in the 55-57 minute time frame!
At our old house, we had a very nice garden. I would get a basket of tomatoes a day out of it. We've been missing that garden as of late, especially when the kids eat tons of veggies and seem to not get enough of them. So, we dug up rock and nailed garden boxes to create the new Rogé family garden. I've had a garden in some way or fashion since I was a kid in Louisiana. It's a southern thing, although we don't have the market cornered or anything. If you didn't have a garden in the South, you were bonafide city folk. We were organic for decades before everyone else found out that it was cool or whatever. We used home remedies to keep the bugs and critters off the plants and our secret fertilizer ingredient was cow manure. My sweet granny, Viola, would be shocked to hear that I buy it in a bag now, we used to go out into our cow pasture with the wheel barrow. Nowadays, Colorado doesn't have the bugs and the only critter I have to do battle with is Buddy our chow-hound.
We talked with both Zina and Rimma this weekend, on two separate occasions. Zina called while we were in the store getting supplies for the garden. Nadia had stayed home, so only Julia and Kolya were available to translate. She wanted us to call back later when Nadia could talk. By the time we got home, had lunch, and got back on the phone to her, she had gone to bed. Rimma answered the phone and chatted awhile. She did finally get our package a few days after Zina's arrived and she said that she loved the shoes. Earlier we sent some cash to her caretaker for both of them to get swimsuits in Ukraine. Rimma explained that they still didn't have enough for the suits, so they just bought sunglasses and summer stuff for the camp with the money. When I asked her if she was just going to wear her underwear to swim in, she giggled. It was great to hear them both again from the other side of the world.
~Felix~

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Heidi loves to play sand volleyball, sail and garden. Felix loves to fly at the local aeroclub, sail and fish.