A Father's Oath

Needless to say, I too am estatic about Rimma's request that we become her parents. Early on, before Rimma and Zina arrived, I saw their pictures and God drew me to them. Heidi and I have been charged by Him to care and provide for these two little girls. As a father, I feel I must protect them and keep them from harm. I was troubled when Rimma wasn't a part of the adoption plan and I vowed to do all that I could for her as she grew into a young lady. Now, I can concentrate on the final goal...I want them here at home.

I came upon this simple Father's Oath to his daughters the other day. In hopes that R&Z will someday read our blog when they are home, I want to post it here for them.

• I will love you unconditionally today and all the days to come.


• I will love and support you as you encounter life but I will not spare you from life’s lessons.


• I will not interfere with your right to grow, to make mistakes and to learn from them.


• I will support your right to autonomy.


• I will not become impatient with you as you perform a task.


• I will not diminish your achievements.


• I will offer discipline in your life and utilize opportunities to instruct, build character and teach responsibility and assist you in finding solutions and alternatives.


• I will teach you that beauty is secondary to character and self respect and experiencing meaning in life. Appearance and good grooming habits are important, but your efforts, achievements and performance are much more important.


• It will be a goal of mine to assist and guide the development of your self esteem so that you are only concerned about measuring up to your own standards.


• I will encourage you to take calculated risks, meet new challenges, overcome obstacles and deal with the real world.


• Although you will always be "my little girls," I will respect you as women in the years to come.

Jessica, Jordan, Zina and Rimma...I love you all and miss you all terribly. You all are in my thoughts and prayers each and every day. Love, Pappa.